Like Mother, Like Daughter
Posted on May 10 2015
My Mother died on the 9th of May some years before I had children myself, and as this date always falls ono or around Mother’s Day it gives a particular significance to Mother’s Day that sadly I never fully appreciated when she was alive.
She was a very humble and friendly person, who was also very private and shy. She was a widow at 30, and as I was her eldest child the high expectations she placed on me as she struggled to raise 4 children alone, helped me to become the woman I am. In turn with my own children this has translated to always seeing them as competent and capable from the earliest age.
When you become a mother the demands on you change and many of the things you once wore are just no longer practical. So the challenge is to re-find your fashion mojo. In my first few years of motherhood this mainly translated to jeans and a variety of tops, and gradually evolved to a wider variety of casual pants such as my Camilla Silk cargo pants or Dakota drill pants. I looked for outfits that were fashionable but practical and comfortable. Outfits that were able to be worn with a pair of casual flats or with a heel for when a bit more formality was needed. I wanted to still look stylish but not like I was all dressed up with nowhere to go in denial that my life had changed (LOL). A variety of beautiful tops became my way of staying relevant.
I think the best thing you can teach any child is to be brave and truly live her life as she wants, never comparing herself to anyone except her self. To know that there will always be someone smarter, prettier, richer, skinner, younger, older, whatever else… but there is only ever one YOU. Strive to be the best Tallulah she can be and stay happy.
This year it will be the Bronte Shirt in off-white  , Lucia Leather Jacket in cream , Vintage Black Courtney Jeans , with my black Gucci ankle boots, the Bajoran Bag in White, and the Samya wrap in Black thrown over the top. Love a bit of boho & fringing!
Yum Cha with my husband and children.
Humility, and to always treat everyone with respect no matter their social status, race, religion or age. Live and let live.
I am not a person who hero worships celebrities, but I recently started following Christy Brinkley on Instagram and she is truly and inspiration on how to be a beautiful person inside and out. She is 61 and still gorgeous. She appears to be an amazingly grounded and loving mother, who has raised 3 well-adjusted children in the eye of celebrity, while continuing to have a career and stay relevant. The world needs more celebrities like that modelling a life of quality, not just shallow self-promotion.
Trust yourself. There is so much information out there now that everything seems like a potential issue. Remember babies have been happening since the beginning of humanity, and have been born and raised by women less prepared and educated than we are, and the human race is still here and thriving. You won’t get wrong, as long as your baby is loved and cared for. We each do it differently and we each do it as feels right to us.
I asked my kids this question last night and they answered every vacation we have ever taken is their favorite! We always have so much fun and adventure whenever we travel. We like each other’s company and we are all up-for-anything. We are not the sort of family that likes planned holidays or tours – we just like things to organically unfold, rather than tick off a list of tourist attractions. Having said that when we talked further they all said Hawaii, Los Angeles, and Italy rated very high!
Anything that involves food! Especially Chinese or Italian. My kids are truly food snobs – they will eat anything and everything as long as it is good!
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